RIP michael jackson. we had some good times… you know, on the dace floor. you will be truly missed, as made obvious by 200 of my closest homeless friends in 5 points atlanta today. a dj rolled into 5 points, stopped traffic and started a Michael Jackson Appreciation Day dance party.

awesome.

it ended with a billy jean dance off. i jumped in for a few faves–thriller, rock with you, the way you make me feel. what a fun impromtu afternoon. i heart the A.

mj: you are missed and i hope we set up a national holiday in your honor 😉

*ash, i know you’re with me on this one

Having been married for a year (and some change), I decided to write a little bit about a few things I’ve learned. I hope to learn more and more forever–I want to be a student of my love 😉

trust his wisdom–he’s probably right, and even if he’s not, he knows that you trust him anyway

let him lead–when you don’t, you’re stealing a chance for him to develop into more of who is is, who he’s meant to be

indulge his dreams–you have to believe in him… even if it seems silly to you, if it’s important to him, it’s important

listen–always better to listen and hold your tongue

catch him doing good–look for ways to compliment and encourage him when reveals the goodness in his heart

seek out experience to share–things that you both love and can enjoy together

make dates–you only have so many weekends per year and so many sunsets, sunrises, roadtrips, and dinners to share in a lifetime

romance, romance, romance–i just found this quote ” you are the only legitimate source of romance in your spouse’s life”

have make-out parties–when was the last time you and your hubby just made-out for 30 minutes like you did in college? very fun.

be creative–dream together, plan together, share hopes and dreams for the future you share

leave notes for him to find–in his briefcase, in his lunch, on his desk, under his pillow, surprise him

believe in him–even if it doesn’t make sense, even if he may not succeed, it’s important to believe in who he is over what he does or wants

support him in all ways in all times–don’t undermine him, especially in front of his friends; things can be talked about candidly in private, but not in front of the guys

endure the ebbs and flows–the ups and downs will come, but you have to know that what you have together is more important

make time–quality time. just because you live together doesn’t mean quantity replaces quality–you need both

leave and cleave–pick him first, before family and before friends and make that clear to them and especially to him

treat him like a best friend–he is your bff

work together, play together–split up the chores and play list equally, then keep up your side of the bargain, without mentioning if/ when he doesn’t

put him first–humility/ submission is all about putting his deal above your deal–whatever it is, it’s more important b/c he’s more important to you than you are (self-less rather than selfish)

Any other thoughts, advice, knowledge… you know what to do::: post! xoxo

someone is saying it please WATCH

i am currently cashing my last paycheck to spend on a trip to NEW YORK!! i will be there tuesday-friday and will see 5 SHOWS in four days. boom.

thanks, former job, for forcing me to quit when i did… thank the Lord… now you can pay for my trip to nyc.

i have much to blog about, but since i’ve been at the lake for about 10 days and will leave for new york the minute i get back, it’ll have to wait until after our ONE YEAR ANNIVERSARY!!!

[seriously… timing is everything…. hehehehehehe]

ttyl

I resigned yesterday after being berated for three-hole-punches being out of line in a binder I put together on Friday. The partner proceeded to explain what a waste of time I was and how quickly he could find a high school graduate who could do better and that this was “intolerable.” He said that he and the partners would make a decision about the repercussions of my actions later… wait? over a three-hole-punch issue with a binder? Yes.

Ok. That was it for me. Many of you know how I feel I’ve been treated at this job and my overall feelings about working there… There was no point in staying on longer.

The Final Conversation: I told him that I would like to talk to him and he basically said that if I didn’t have a message for him, it was unimportant and would have to wait, as he pushed past me and out of his office into the hallway. I had wanted to wait to say things in private, but he was rude, so what did it matter? I simply said, “I’ll make the decision easy for you: I’m resigning.” He turned, continued walking, and said over his sholder, “That does make it easy.” I gathered my things and left. What can I say: he was true to character. No handshake. No eye contact. No well-wishes. I’m not worth any of that in his eyes–never was.

As I walked out the doors of the building, I really felt like I was just shaking the dust from my sandals and leaving a black-hearted place that does not have ears to hear or eyes to see.

I’m glad to be gone. However, I will miss the others–the other support staff and associates. I wish them all the best. I also hope that the partner’s change or are soon found out for who and what they truly are.

On a happier note: I think I’ve found something else–much bigger and better. Nothing’s set in stone yet, so I can’t say much, except that my work environment will be the complete opposite and I will actually enjoy going to work.

Lend me your thoughts and wisdom, I love you so much–what do you think? The only part I’m having trouble with is the fact that I did not wake up yesterday and plan on making this financial decision. Pray for rest and peace in knowing that God will provide and we made the right decision. Thanks

Lucy

ps. AS I WAS WALKING OUT OF THE BUILDING I SAW SANDRA BULLOCK FILMING HER NEW MOVIE… I COULD’VE REACHED OUT AND TOUCHED HER, EXCEPT FOR HER BODY GUARD! SHE IS BEAUTIFUL AND IT WAS AMAZING!!!